Paul Abbi James and I can’t express how we feel about finally receiving some great news that JPC Community Farm has now got planning permission to have independent supported living for up to 18 adults with special/complex needs built on a Farm near Stokesley. This is exciting news for all.
Having children is a blessing for every parent even with the worries and stress it brings – we all think we know true love but holding that baby in your arms for the first time is such an unconditional love you can’t explain.
However, having a child that is born with a special need comes with extra worries and concerns and a constant need for care that sets your heart racing a million beats at a time.
I know because I had my son’s vision mapped out in my brain which felt like years of time yet was only seconds
The minute our children learn to sit we want them to stand and walk, then we can’t wait for them to talk. Before we know it, they are in the nursery then school and before we blink college. We don’t mean to wish away the years just excited to see them change, and once they have you’re wanting them to go back to being your little baby again – we are funny people
That’s how it was for me when my daughter Abbi was born James on the other hand not so much – I did at first because when the Dr said they couldn’t be sure what was wrong until he was older then I wished him to jump 4 years however beyond that I wanted to keep him small so I could protect him and keep him safe – I thought as long as I could carry him in my arms I wouldn’t have to worry –
Unfortunately, life isn’t that simple and he was never going to stay a baby not in size anyway
I was aware eventually that James wasn’t going to live the same life as his sister but I was going to damn well make sure he had the same opportunities no matter what it took – Abbi took horse riding lessons and became an amazing showjumper -James loves his lessons ( but likes the girls who look after him more) Abbi learnt to ski – James did the exact black runs ( in a sleigh) Abbi had to go Karting parties – James did to ( with his dad driving )
But we still wanting him not to miss out
I’m sharing this because I wanted you to know that as parents we never gave up
Abbi is doing so well in London she has a beautiful little house fab boyfriend great career and we are so proud of her –
she spends her spare time helping us to grow the charity and FaceTime her brother every night
Paul and I have a fantastic challenge ahead of us now – we have the farm a place that is going to be like a whole new family bringing together young adults who want to live independently even if supported and not totally alone but still have their own front door – I feel so proud to say that a dream I once’s had is now coming true – I just wish I could build a whole town so that every single person that needed this chance to have a life of independence had one
I want to say THANK YOU you know who you are because you have supported us in so many ways
Through words, hugs, and attending our charity events raising money – words can’t express our gratitude
I hope you know how much this means to us
Thank you, thank you, thank you xx
Just thinking out loud